(written by Terry MacNeil, on December 13-14, 2025)

These days, Facebook always sends me Reels to click on – these being short video clips. And these are always Reels that zoom in on women’s asses. But of course, the Facebook algorithm is merely operating the way it should – because Facebook sends me the kind of Reels that I am likely to click on. Although these days, I am trying to get the Facebook algorithm to send me more Reels of women with thick thighs – regardless of ass size. One such female that often posts Facebook Reels I click on – is Jules Ari (I think). That might not be her real name – so for the remainder of this note, I shall only refer to her as “the woman”. In the video, the woman claims to be 26 years old – and since I’m in my forties, I imagine I’ll be taking SOME criticism from SOME OF YOU HUMANS for ogling a woman in her twenties. Oh well. Fuck you all.

Anyway, in the video – the woman is frustrated to be dealing with unconfident men whom she labels “boys” (I know that’s an insult, but I can think of a million way crueller insults than that for such men). “WHERE ARE THE MEN AT?” she asks, before stating she “shouldn’t be the one to have to take control in the situation when it comes to kissing”. She then cites one man and their first date together, and says it had been going well – until they were about to part ways. She says the man was unassertive – and she was unimpressed. The woman then (in the video) makes it clear she expects tongue for a good night kiss (on a first date). And I say that’s great! Though I would ask the woman – did the man specifically know that was what you wanted? And, if he knew you wanted tongue – was he too sexually inexperienced to kiss you the way you wanted? If so, why not teach him? Also, is it possible he was simply trying to be “considerate”?

I recall a conversation I had not so long ago, with a male homosexual friend of mine. I was explaining to him that as an anarchist, that before I do anything sexually – I NEED to have 100% confirmation that it’s OK with the woman. So I guess having sex with me would be pretty fucking mechanical: “Can I kiss your lips?”, “Can I put my tongue in your mouth?”, “Can I put my hand on your thigh?”, “Can I put my hand on your tit?”, “Can I put my dick in your mouth?”, etc. My friend pointed out most people simply “read the situation”, and instinctively “know” what their sexual partner wants. My reply, is that I am completely fucking clueless when it comes to “reading the situation”. And so are an increasing number of men this day and age. Feminism has (thankfully) made a lot of headway – when it comes to getting men to be more “sensitive/considerate” (in multiple ways) of women (especially since the “Me Too” movement).

Why are so many men so clueless at “reading the situation”? I blame teenagers choosing isolation, smartphones, and video games instead of socializing face-to-face with their peers (I also blame “helicopter parents” that are WAY too protective of their teens). Teens NEED to be going to parties on weekends, getting drunk, hitting on the girls/boys that they’re attracted to, etc. When I was a teenager – I was so depressed and so psychotic, I was terrified of socializing. So long before I ever became an anarchist – I was completely socially inept. And yes, I regularly whack off to porn – but I would never forgive myself if I tried to convince a woman to let me do the things to her that I see depicted in virtually every pornographic video I have ever seen. My point is – we men (not all of us, but many of us), are TRYING to be “considerate” feminists.

The info the woman (in the Facebook Reel) leaves unsaid – is if she had ever been sexually assaulted. Yes, we “considerate” men are boring/passionless. But I can say with a VERY HIGH degree of certainty, that any “considerate” man is preferable to an “inconsiderate” man. Ⓐ